Karsten Schmidt<p>This plea below is also the #1 reason why there isn't a code of conduct (yet?) for <a href="https://mastodon.thi.ng/tags/ThingUmbrella" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>ThingUmbrella</span></a>. The pseudo-legalese tone of voice in all CoC I've read so far feels _very_ off-putting and IMHO doesn't make a project feel any more welcoming/inviting or safe.</p><p>Tolerance is something you're showing & exhibiting in your very actions/behaviors, not something you're explicitly stating/claiming/espousing to have in some document.</p><p>House rules. Ten commandments. Thou shalt not... I understand, and I'm in 100% agreement with what a CoC is trying to achieve in principle, but I'm super doubtful about this chosen approach/implementation/format/voicing vs. the actual desired expectations. I'm even more dubious about the passive-aggressive nudging of projects who don't have one (e.g. Github's "Community Standards" progress bar). To me, it is just a damn sad state of human affairs these kinds of documents (ALL of them pretty much saying the exact same things in more or less patronizing, bureaucratic, semi-corporate HR speech) are having to be explicitly spelled out over and over again, for each single project, and always for the same exact reasons, rather than assuming these norms as the default social standard...</p><p>Summa summarum: Be respectful, tolerant, assume the best, be open-minded, supportive and above all don't be a nazi/dick/misogynist etc.</p><p>Shit exceptions do of course exists, but really, how many projects/communities (as ratio) are choosing to passively accept or actively invite the opposite of the above? And aren't these outliers fairly easy to spot, early on, before any deeper engagement/contribution would be considered by newcomers?</p><p>What happened to us? How did we get here, and more importantly, how do we go _from_ here (with or without CoCs)? For the projects who have them, has the addition of a CoC _really_ (in practical terms) resulted in any tangible positive behavior selection/change/enforcement and was it _actually_ more meaningful than a mere rubberstamping exercise, i.e. the presence of such a document resulting in more than merely signalling a kind of sociopolitical belonging (and therefore a supposedly more welcoming/open attitude)?</p><p><a href="https://mas.to/@TodePond/111149691826477201" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" translate="no" target="_blank"><span class="invisible">https://</span><span class="ellipsis">mas.to/@TodePond/1111496918264</span><span class="invisible">77201</span></a></p><p><a href="https://mastodon.thi.ng/tags/CodeOfConduct" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>CodeOfConduct</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.thi.ng/tags/OpenSource" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>OpenSource</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.thi.ng/tags/Community" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Community</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.thi.ng/tags/SocialBehavior" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>SocialBehavior</span></a></p>